MY EXPERIENCE AT THE WOMEN’S MARCH ON WASHINGTON

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If you follow me on Instagram or Snapchat, you may have seen that I participated in the Women’s March on Washington this past Saturday. I marched alongside my sister, mother, brother, and several of my sisters’ friends in support of LGBT rights. This was pretty far outside my comfort zone, but I felt compelled to stand in support of my sister and her friends in light of the recent election and subsequent removal of the LGBT page from the White House website. It is never my intention to use this platform as a place to create controversy or further division among women — I sincerely hope you will all understand that this post comes from a place of love and hope and will choose to respond in kind.

My experience at the Women’s March was nothing short of extraordinary. I had no idea what to expect and was nervous about potential violence at the event. I even thought about bailing at the last minute when I woke up with a sore throat on Friday morning. Something bad could happen! I’m getting sick! It’s a five hour drive to D.C.! But I am so glad I pushed past those anxieties and excuses to show up for my sister and so many other women in this country who feel afraid and alone. To be there and witness firsthand the renewed hope of so many thousands of women was an experience I’m certain I will never forget.

I was nervous to share my experience on Instagram (and again here) because we all know politics can bring out the best and worst in people. I tried to highlight posters with a positive message and wrote a caption that felt inclusive and optimistic. And I won’t sugarcoat this part: it broke my heart to see people interpret my support of my sister as a statement against certain women, an unwillingness to accept our new president, or anything even remotely divisive. I was sad to hear that some women did not feel welcome at the march. There were women and men from truly all ages, races, identities, and causes — and zero arrests in D.C. — and I hate to think that anyone felt excluded from such a peaceful group. I agree we should strive for maximum inclusivity as we figure out the best way forward. In the mean time, let’s all pledge to do a better job of really listening to one another without making assumptions or lashing out when we disagree. Let’s celebrate our many shared experiences and seek to better understand the experiences we do not share. In the words of Maya Angelou, “We are more alike, my friends, than we are unalike.” That’s never felt more true to me than it did this past weekend in Washington.

In the end, I lost over 600 followers after my Instagram post on Saturday, but I’m eternally grateful to everyone who reminded me of all I gained. To see my sister cry tears of joy when she realized she’s not at all alone, to see her end the day with so much more hope than she’d had when she started it, made me realize how petty my concerns were by comparison. My comfort zone is comfy for a reason, but this experience felt too pivotal, too personal, to avoid discussing here. My intention is always to uplift and inspire, and you should know that I’m grateful to each and every one of you, regardless of how you voted. I hope today’s post is simply a reminder that we can all be a little more open-minded, a little less quick to judge, and a little kinder to one another. In seven years of blogging, I’ve met so many women I consider true class acts, and this weekend I realized I’d take to the streets any day to help even one or two of you.

P.S. This post has some great resources for getting involved if you too find this stuff outside your comfort zone.

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  1. Only bumbed recently on your blog! But really loving it to read so honest words! Even though I am not American it is a great accomplishment for the LGBT scene to have people participate and raise their voice! This article only makes me want to follow you even more!

  2. Long time reader and follower, first time commenting. Since finding your blog years ago, I’ve always looked to you for fashion and lifestyle insipriation. Thank you so much for expanding on ur experience at this event. As a white woman, I know it is time to show up much more for women of color, and members of the LGBTQ community, even if it is outside of my comfort zone. Reading your post inspired me to push past my fear of large crowds to participate in my college’s recent march against the current administrations immigration policies. It is refreshing to hear your perspective, thank you so much for sharing 💙

  3. Finally got to read this post and LOVE that you went & that you shared your experience! I am so proud of my friends who are using their platform to show how powerful love and kindness and support can be.

  4. You.are.the.best.

    I skim a lot of blogger’s written words (I’m a visuals girl), but I read every word you write.

    This is just one reason why.

    Keep it up, girl!

    XO,
    A fellow marcher + friend, Ashley

  5. This is beautiful!

    Thank you for sharing and being so honest and open. My sister is my best friend and it’s the best when sisters support one another and are there for each other – along with us women supporting each other and building ourselves up instead of breaking each other down! Bravo on your courage! #GirlPower #LoveConquersAll #DoGood

    Kindest regards,
    Emily
    http://www.fortuitousfoodies.com

  6. I know losing followers is hard when you are business owner, but you were in the works of a great cause. Those who oppose peace and love were not with you to begin with. And, I suspect as our world becomes more accepting of all people rather than “othering” those who are different than ourselves, your numbers will increase. Thank you for joining the march, even when it required overcoming significant anxiety.

  7. Thank you for sharing this – what a wonderful way to support you sister. I found the marches around the country (and the world!) to be so inspiring! I’m sorry to hear that you lost instagrm followers over a post that had such a peaceful and positive message. It makes me sad to think that young women would be put off by something like that in this day and age. Kudos to you for not shying away from content that might be (but shouldn’t be!) controversial.

  8. I was there, too! And thank you for sharing this—I feel like whenever a blogger does something “controversial” and loses followers, it can feel like a personal affront. But, at the end of the day—and at the end of your life—you will be surrounded by family and friends, not anonymous readers and followers, and it’s more important that you can look them in the eye and feel proud of your life and the way you have used your voice and if what you have believed in and stood for is right. If losing a few hundred anonymous, close-minded followers on the internet is a consequence of this, I don’t think you should sweat it; instead, you should be proud that you’re able to raise your voice at all, and do so in support of a family member.

    1. I couldn’t love this comment more, Rose! Really well said.
      You also have my support and admiration Mackenzie, keep standing up for what you believe in.

      Daisy xo

  9. Just wanted to leave a note saying that I respect and admire that you went outside your comfort zone for something you believe in, going to the march and sharing that. Your thoughts in the above post were wonderful.

  10. Thank you for standing up for what you believe in! It is always hard to speak out, or stand up, or show up when something controversial is at stake, but it wouldn’t be controversial if it was not important.

  11. I, too, have read you blog for some time and have never commented UNTIL NOW. Bravo to you for sharing your experience. My daughter and I marched in Cleveland, Ohio. The feeling of camaraderie among all the marchers was inspiring, energizing and empowering. Keep up the courage and keep doing you. For what it’s worth, you gained an Instagram follower today as well.

  12. Thank you so much for sharing this, it’s incredibly brave and powerful to stand up for something so important and personal. You have every right to privacy as we all do but you chose to be transparent for the sake of doing what you felt was right in your heart. I hope one day everyone feels comfortable sharing their views without so much potential for scrutiny.

    But until then, we have people like you to set such a great example.

    Sincerely,

    Monica

  13. I loved that you were at the march. Honestly, I found myself frustrated with so many bloggers who were posting “business as usual” throughout the historic weekend (both on Friday for the inauguration and on Saturday for the march). This past weekend was NOT business as usual and the fact that you acknowledged that was massive for me. Thank you.

  14. Proud of you for standing up for your principles and for women/LGBT rights! I have nothing but respect for you for marching and for posting about it. I’m sorry that not everyone was able to see where you were coming from.

  15. I was at the march too and it was such a monumental event. The sheer number of people cannot be described or grasped by photos- it was insane!

    As for losing followers I find it frustrating that bloggers are being unfollowed simply for showing their support of a cause or issue. Not even going on about it or lecturing- just simply sharing a photo. It’s insane to me that somehow we can’t still follow someone on social media or read a blog once we know their political affiliation.

    I personally did not unfollow any Republican bloggers because um, I don’t follow them for their political views to begin with! If it was in your face and constant then yes I’d get annoyed and not want to constantly read/see it but a photo at inauguration? How is that personally offending me? So childish.

  16. I have never commented on your blog before even though I read it quite often. Thank you so much for taking a stand and participating in the Women’s March! It takes a lot of courage to stand up and speak out and I applaud any blogger who does. Many don’t and using your voice to stand up for things that you believe is so much more important than nice clothes and pretty pictures (those are great too but they should not be the most important thing in life ;-)). I live in Germany and I can honestly say that what is currently happening in US politics is breaking our hearts here. It feels like such a gigantic step backwards when we felt ever since Obama became president the way to go was to forward to a better future. Like you said, there is so much more than unites us than divides us – across borders, races, identities and nationalities, let us women stick together! We now need to more than ever before!

  17. Also wanted to add… everyone speaks up when it is safe and easy. We need people who will speak up when it’s hard. Thank you so much for being a true ally to so many. <3 I don't know if you can fully understand how much if means that you are willing to go out on that limb. So many of us live out there, and it can feel terribly alone, and, at times like this, extremely frightening.

  18. Thank you for supporting your sister and many many of your readers as well (myself included). I’ve read and loved your blog for years and I love it 100x more after reading this.

  19. Beautifully written. Thank you for sharing. So sorry that you lost followers but I think it’s amazing that you still stuck to your guns.

  20. I’m just an occasional reader (and I’ve never commented on your blog before), but I’m really proud of you for writing this post. Brava.

  21. Just wanted to echo my appreciation for this post! I marched with ~75k people in Madison, Wisconsin, and found the experience so moving/encouraging. Glad you were able to go to D.C. and share! Lots of love to your sis during this time. May she know that even in states that voted red (Wisco, sadly) there are tons of people dedicated to and advocating for LGBT rights, and refusing to go backwards on matters so incredibly important.

  22. Mackenzie,
    Longtime reader here. I really admire you for standing up with your sister. I attended the sister march in Raleigh and felt nothing but love and inspiration. So glad you had the same experience. We need more understanding and kindness – I hope your Instagram post illuminated that for the some of the haters if even they unfollowed. Keep up the fight!

  23. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences. It is a beautiful thing that you are able to use your platform to help others feel supported as you’re stepping up for your sister. As I’ve said before, it is the duty of privilege to fight for equality. Just wondering– have you identified any actions you will take to continue to be part of creating change? I know I have a few steps I’m taking, but I would really value your thoughts on what we can all do to carry Saturday’s momentum forward.

  24. The world needs more people like you! Your sister is so lucky to have you in her life! Thank for you having the courage to share this!

  25. You might have lost 600 followers but you’ve gained a reader for as long as you keep this blog! It’s important to stand up for what you believe in and support your loved ones, especially in divisive, difficult and turbulent times like the ones we now live in. I have been reading your blog for quite a while but never left a comment. You have my respect!

  26. thanks for sharing your experience. I also marched & was so moved by the men & women I was surrounded by. I am glad you gained so much from marching, but also am sorry for the hate you may have gotten. I underwent a similar situation, but that doesn’t compare to the amount of love & support I received.. From the bottom of my heart, thank you. Thank you for marching. Thank you for standing up. Thank you for using your voice. Thank you for supporting others,

  27. I truly appreciated your post here and on Instagram! Bloggers like you have such a huge platform that it actually frustrates me when they choose to ignore potentially thorny or controversial posts. I appreciate you and your work so much more now! I also marched with my sister and she sent me a picture of a sign that read “Sisters were made for moments like these”, seems like you would certainly feel the same way! <3 (ps – I am now off to browse your shop for the first time!)

  28. awesome post! I wish the whole world would read this post! THe march was about inclusivity. You are a shining start of an example of a good supportive friend and sister. Im liberal but follow some conservative bloggers and I continue to do so…hell, I even follow Ivanka trumps IG. You keep doing your thang!

  29. Mackenzie,
    Echoing what others have already said- so proud of you for posting this and on Instagram and Snapchat! I am a long time reader and am happy to see you (and some of my other favorite bloggers) not afraid to speak up for what you believe in. As you said, this is too important of an issue to stay quiet about, and no one should expect you or anyone to be quiet. It is sad to me that you lost followers, as your post was not offensive at all, but I say good riddance to them! Thank you for marching for all women!
    Marisa

  30. Mackenzie, I haven’t been following you on instagram but am going to right now to add a small “plus” to the ones who left. I’m so sorry that some people find it so difficult to accept that others have different beliefs. As a liberal in the Deep South, I am surrounded by people who voted for Trump. The upside is that I realized we can’t categorize people so easily. I know so many kind, loving people who voted for him that it would be simplistic to call them all racist, xenophobic, etc. We all have SO much more in common and want so many of the same things-we just differ in the best way to get there. Thank you for marching for ALL women, even those who don’t think they need it.

  31. I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of readership. I’m a long time reader but I’ve never commented before. I think it is always worth the consequences if you are doing something out of love for someone you love. Being true to yourself out loud is actually really hard at times so good for you and your sister! You’re doing a wonderful job!!

  32. Thanks so much for sharing! I couldn’t march because of family obligations, but I was there in spirit. I think all women have to stand together and remind the world that we care about equal rights for all. I’m sorry that some people unfollowed you, but to be honest I thought about unfollowing some bloggers who were just posting their usual fashion pics on Saturday. I think it was such an important event all around the world that I connected more with the bloggers who spoke in solidarity of the march than those who tried to ignore it.

  33. Mackenzie,

    I left a comment on your instagram but I just wanted to reiterate here how extremely brave this post is and how ridiculously proud (can you be proud of someone you don’t know personally??? yes!) of you that I am. For someone whose job it is to have followers on social media it couldn’t have been easy to risk that to make such a brave and inspiring post. And this is brave and inspiring. I keep coming back to how brave this is, but it really is incredible that you not only attended but were loud and proud about it. Your love for your sister shines throughout this post and standing up for her is worth any negatives. I read the instagram comments you received and was pretty horrified by the people who clearly did not understand your message and did not read what you had to say. The comments here are glorious and I am proud of both you and your readers.

    So many bloggers put their heads in the sand and don’t post anything about politics or even personal issues that are important to them because they are worried about followers or being the least bit divisive. To only post AFTER the election is shameful. I was impressed months before the election you posted in your weekly round up for people to register to vote. You are one of the only bloggers out there grappling with the reality of the world in which we live and doing it in a way that is inclusive and personal and REAL. You should be extremely proud of this post and for your honesty and for your family and the love you have for your sister. These are scary times but if we learn anything from them it should be to not stay silence especially when we are such an influencer like you. Bravo!

  34. Thank you so much for sharing your experience and deciding that doing so was more important (or just as important) than keeping followers.

  35. Mackenzie, thank you so much for sharing this experience. It’s so important to step outside of our comfort zones and this post is a great reminder to do so. I truly admire your openness and honesty in this post – thanks for the well-written call for kindness!

  36. I think it’s amazing that you went to the March! It’s important that we all spread love and are inclusive at this time. I wish I could have gone!

  37. I am so proud of you for doing this – and I don’t even know you! Support your sister, support this movement – there is room for diversity under the women’s tent.

  38. Thank you for speaking your mind and sharing it with others. You were a part of history on Saturday, as was your sister. We marched for love for everyone, rights for everyone, and respect for everyone. I’m grateful to you and your sister.

  39. YES mackenzie! A million times YES! It disappoints me to see that so many bloggers choose inaction over action, silence over speaking out, fearing that they will lose something as vain as their followers from getting “political” on their blog. Ultimately, the women’s march transcended politics because human decency is a right. There is nothing more important or valuable in this world than staying true to yourself. We often (myself included) get so caught up in what others might think that we forget that our silence inherently promotes what we do not stand for.

    Xo Leda

  40. Bravo! Thank you for posting and for marching. I admire you! I am a longtime follower and have bought from your shop and recommended your blog and shop to others. Good for you for realizing there is a bigger picture. I’d love to see more personal posts like this in the future.

  41. Thank you! I attended in Boston and felt so happy to be amongst a positive, loving, respectful crowd. Many people marched for many different reasons, LGBTQ rights, Climate Change Awareness, ACA access, reproductive rights. You may have lost some followers, but I’m sure the love and support your sister felt far outweighs those that unfollowed. Again, THANK YOU.

  42. Honest, eloquent. I am sorry to hear anyone would judge your choice, as you clearly followed your heart and your convictions, and managed to share your experiences in a balanced, welcoming way that judges no one. Thank you for sharing this.
    Please also tell your sister that so many people who she did not see that day stand with her as well. We will all make sure she is okay.

  43. Very well put! I attended the march in Seattle, and like you felt nervous and even looked for ways to bail the morning of. I was tired, traffic was going to be a nightmare, my poster wasn’t as inspirational as it could have been…the list went on. But I am SO GLAD I went. It was so inspiring, and it helped the on-going feeling of dread I’ve had in the pit of my stomach since November. There is still so much work to do, but it helps to know there are literally millions of people from all over the world who are willing to pitch in and do their part. As for the negative attention and loss of followers you’ve experienced as a result of sharing your experiences and opinions, I’m sorry. There will always be people too close-minded and quick to judge. I don’t think you posted anything inflammatory or worthy of getting upset over. Kudos to you for getting involved!

  44. I love this post! I have never commented before but I must say, I like you more than ever after reading this! I’m so jealous you got to go to DC and march. Forget about the followers you lost. You don’t want followers like that anyway. Bravo to all the women (and men) who marched for all women! We all have so much to lose with this administration. Thank you for standing up for what is right. I have been very disappointed with all the women who have been complaining/mocking those who marched. I am a white heterosexual woman with a great life but I realize that is a privilege. There were many brave souls who paved the way for me to be all that I am.

  45. Thank you for sharing your experience, Mackenzie! I was proud to walk peacefully and passionately on Saturday and you’re right, the energy and renewed sense of hope & action were something I’ll always remember. It’s so special to see you sharing this online… not so much for all the followers who identify with you already (north east liberals, generally haha!) but more so for all those who live in wonderful places where that POV might not be the norm. I truly believe when we share our love & support with those around us, it unites and strengthens us. Bravo, girl!!

  46. Thank you Mackenzie! You and Julia (from Lemonstripes) were some of the only bloggers brave enough to just put this out there. I wish that you get at least 3,000 more viewers for the 600 you lost! Thank you for not being vein, shallow or act like what occurred in our country is not happening by posting clothes, house designing, a trip or any of those other ridiculous posts that some of your contemporaries posted today.

    As I told Julia, you really should consider running for a political position at a local area once you return to Connecticut! Politics needs and deserves passionate people such as you!

  47. So respect your wisdom and eloquence in this post. Anyone who is too fickle and closed-minded to follow someone with what they interpret to be a different opinion than their own isn’t worth having as a follower anyway. Quality over quantity always! Such a great sister and an inspiration. Thank you for your bravery; we need more bloggers like you who aren’t afraid to have a stance.

  48. Thanks for sharing your experience. I went to the DC March as well and was in awe of the love and friendship I felt with everyone there. I’m not sure any of us thought it would be as big or successful as it was. It was really great to see your Instagram post. I follow quite a few fashion bloggers, and only one or two of you shared something about the marches.. I was impressed by your courage to post something controversial on your business platform, and touched that you, too, were proud to have been a part of an inspiring day. Thank you for being honest, respectful and a class act. I’ve read your blog for a few years now, and hope to follow along for years to come!

  49. Thank you for marching and for sharing so openly! I love reading your more personal posts and I know that’s difficult to put yourself out there when so many people read your blog and have opinions. But in the end, this is YOUR personal blog, life, instagram, etc. and we’re all choosing to come here and read it because we enjoy it. I’m always so shocked when people unfollow someone they usually enjoy following, just for expressing something they personally believe in. It might be a blessing in disguise, you wouldn’t want those people following you anyway if they’re so quick to leave because of 1 (supportive, inclusive, encouraging, etc.) post. It’s better to have a smaller, supportive & engaged community than a large inactive one anyway. Keep it up!

  50. II wish I could have been right there next to you! Good for you in representing all of us who were unable to make that walk. I am inspired by your willingness to share your experience. We MUST unite as women and make this a better world.

  51. Mckenzie, from a right-winged, Christian conservative, THANK YOU (!) for sharing! As I watched fierce debates break out among friends of mine on Facebook, those who marched (and condemned) could not really explain why they were marching, just that it wasn’t “all about abortion.” I’m embarrassed to say because you explained it so easily and effortlessly, but I really had no idea why these women were marching. It’s easy for me to say that because I am a stay-at-home mom, which is exactly what I want to be (for now, anyway). But thank you for explaining from your heart why you and so many others marched. Unfortunately it seems that only the “ugly” is portrayed from both sides. I respect and admire your actions and appreciate a thoughtful and eloquent explanation. March on!

  52. Love this!! You may have lost a few followers but you have gained so much more respect!! I marched as well and was so excited to see your posts! I was hoping at least a few of the amazing bloggers I follow would make a statement and was so excited when I saw your post! Love your love for your sister! How special! Thank you for marching!! I know it was for all the best reasons! Way to go girl!

  53. I have been doing a pretty good job of getting rid of all political posts, misinterpretations about women’s rights, etc. etc. etc. etc. This was a new spin on an issue we have been hearing about a lot, and I won’t lie I read your entire article. Thank you for being positive and neutral on media while still supporting your sister and standing up for what you believe in.

    http://aduchessandablog.blogspot.com/

  54. BRAVO!!! way to be brave and stand up for what’s most important–family, love, and human rights. became an even bigger fan of yours today!!! THANK YOU for standing up!!!

  55. Thank you for marching and being so open and honest! Your sister is so lucky to have so many amazing people in her life and all women everywhere are lucky to have their voices hear!

  56. You’re a forever follow for me! I think that people with large platforms have a responsibility to engage in civil and social justice discussions. Especially when it’s personal! And I love the way you phrased it. Your sister feeling supported is soooo much more important than followers. And I’m so jealous you got to experience that showing of solidarity!

  57. Thank you, that took guts. I’ve been reading your blog but not following you on Instagram but I will now. Keep your chin up and your feet on the street. I am sure you’re finding that the loss in Instagram followers is nothing compared to the reassurance your sister gained seeing you and the strength in numbers at the March.

    Also, much respect to those couple of republican/conservative women commenting to explain their feelings and not threatening to unfollow. We all gain better understanding and compassion from the civil back and forth of smart women who disagree.

  58. Thank you for this, Mackenzie!
    This is so beautiful and strong and I am so inspired by your participation this weekend.
    600 followers is truly nothing compared to what this nation will gain from women like you, your sister, and everyone else who marched

    xoxo

  59. Hi Mackenzie-

    I have never commented on your blog, but I am so excited to see you post about your experience here! I am a longtime reader and fan of your style and shop! You are a talented business owner and blogger, and a blog is the perfect venue (as is Instagram) to share about your experience at this historic march. I marched in NYC and the feeling was positive, loving, optimistic and communal. Anyone and everyone were welcome to join! I am going to follow you on instagram now! So maybe you lost 600 followers, but you’re gaining one!

    xoxo-
    Mollie

  60. Thank you, thank you, thank you. You so eloquently put into words the incredible feelings that I had when I attended the march. Thank you for speaking up and speaking out.

  61. Really sad to hear you lost 600 followers. I know I live in a bubble, but the idea that there are hundreds of women out there who will admire a woman for starting her own business, moving to a new state with her boyfriend, and generally kicking ass at living life on her own terms (that’s you, by the way – I’m talking about you!) but then turn their backs on her when she advocates for other women having the right to live their lives on their own terms – honestly, I don’t know how we bridge the gap. I don’t even know that it’s our responsibility to bridge it. It’s theirs. Love is our bridge. They can walk across it or not, but we can’t drag them across.

  62. Thank you for speaking about this! This makes me much more of a devoted follower to you! This is inspirational, and thanks for being such a great ally to your sister. Sisterhood (in all forms) is powerful.

  63. This is a truly beautiful explanation of why you marched and what it meant to you and those who are important to you. I marched, too. I haven’t done so since the ERA but could not abide the thought that this administration will not be inclusive. Rights of the disabled were also removed from the White House website and this should scandalize every American with any moral integrity. I am a lawyer and retired judge. The Old Testament states “justice, justice, ye shall pursue”. If those 600 followers do not understand this, then it is their loss. Your blog is wonderful, even to an old nasty woman like me!

  64. Yes! So glad that you were willing to share your experience! Human rights are so much more important than any follower number anyway. So happy for you and your family 🙂

  65. I was there as well and thought it was such an incredible, inspiring experience. I’m still thinking about it and feeling the positive effects. I’m sorry people reacted negatively to your posts, but it’s so important to support the ones you love and follow your beliefs especially in this difficult time. I’m sure some of my friends and family haven’t been happy with my posts as I know some support Trump but I believe it is important to stand up for what I believe is right. These times are unlike any other and I refuse to go back 50+ years when we all don’t have the rights we have today and aren’t moving forward to a more inclusive society.

  66. BRAVO. I got teary when I read this. All of us have family members, work colleagues, friends of friends in
    the LGBT community. I am old enough to be your Mom, but I love your blog. I read it to get great ideas
    for fashion for my daughter. She has told me I have rocked it with gifts-Thanks you for that.
    Your sister is one lucky gal. I have a niece who just came out as gay, and her parents are not supportive.
    After last Saturday, watching all these wonderful women (in Chicago for us) what a great day it was, and a future
    of hope.

  67. I am so glad that you shared your experience on here and on Instagram! Politics can lead to some crazy comments, and some really hurtful words, but being there for those who need to know they are not alone will always be worth it! Thank you for marching, thank you for supporting LBGT rights, and thank you for being brave enough to do so publicly!

    #LoveTrumpsHate

  68. I loved this post so much. So awesome that you are brave enough to speak out for what you believe in and to support your sister. It really upset me that there was backlash over this. I’ve been reading your blog for a while and just started following you on instagram after reading this so you’re getting those 600 back real quick

  69. Insert clapping emoji here. Bravo for sharing a very personal story and touching on a difficult topic with grace. When I saw your post come into my reader, I was hesitant to open it because of some of the snaps/comments/tweets that Ive seen from other bloggers about anyone who did not vote for Hillary. Your post reminded me how as a Pro-Marriage Equality republican, I have a duty to continue to use my voice for good. Even when I’m told that I’m not welcome at Saturday’s Women’s March.

    I was a proud republican reader of your site and shopper of your boutique before the march and I can’t wait to continue to do both as we move forward.

  70. Good for you!!! I follow you on all forms of social media that I am on and will continue to do so. It’s important to stand strong on all issues that are important to you, your family and your friends. We all need to stand strong and speak out. May I suggest supporting legitimate media as well against attacks from “alternate facts”. Subscribe to the newspaper don’t just read online for free. Support your local NPR station by being a member. These legitimate forms of media are being attacked with a spin that many don’t even recognize.

  71. Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability! This means more to your readers than you know. I stand with you in solidarity, and this post has given me great hope and encouragement.

  72. “We must always take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented.” –Elie Wiesel

    Those who choose to stay silent do not like to be reminded of it by those who do not. You made those >600 followers uncomfortable with their own silence… good on you! Thank you for your voice!

  73. Thank you so much for sharing this! You should not have to keep silent on something important to you for the sake of keeping followers. I wish I was able to attend the march on Saturday, but work commitments made that impossible. I loved and appreciated following along with you on SnapChat.

    Ashley | Sunday Brunch

  74. I think what you did in support of your sister and so many others is amazing. If people have to unfollow you because they can’t see that, sadly that’s their problem. You may have lost followers, but you gained A TON of respect from other people. Don’r forget that!

  75. Hi Mackenzie! It makes me so happy that you joined the March on Washington. Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I hope you and your family stay strong throughout whatever the new administration brings for LGBT rights!

    1. does it not strike you as strange that you are responding with hate to an uplifting blog post about inclusivity and supporting one another?

  76. I just left a comment on the instagram you posted but wanted to leave you a longer, more detailed reply here because I truly changed my view of your blog and platform when I saw the picture – for the better. Knowing you are from Connecticut, summer on Nantucket and lived in Dallas, I assumed you were an upper middle-to-upper class conservative. I enjoy your content so, even as a loud and proud liberal, I continued reading and following you on social media. Your post on Saturday made me incredibly happy. Happy to see that, even though you may still have more conservative views than myself, you understand the importance of acceptance and inclusion – especially when it comes to family. I read the comments on this post as well as your instagram to get a feel for how people were responding, and I’ve seen several posts highlighting the exclusion of certain women’s groups from the marches. I believe this is because the march values the voice of a woman and the importance of her independence in all ways, shapes and forms. The only comment I will make to those posts is: pro-choice, in my mind, is the ability of each and every woman to decide what she wants for her own body. And whether that choice is the continuation or termination of her pregnancy, I accept and support her because I believe in the freedom of every citizens right to choose.

    Mackenzie, thank you for stirring up the dirt. Thank you for posting your views and having the courage to speak out for what you feel is important. You don’t have to be the perfect spokeswoman or know exactly what to say. I rarely do! But I know I must follow my heart and act when needed. And you did just that. Thank you, thank you, thank you. I hope speaking out this weekend has opened your eyes to how many followers you have who do support your decision to march and are proud of you for doing so. <3

    1. You ROCK Mackenzie! I love your blog and I have really appreciated your ability to be open about your views in a way that is respectful and genuine. I related a lot to your post after the election and feeling ‘down.’ Since then, I have been making a point to find stories of inspiration and uplifting moments. This post is one of those moments. Thank you!

  77. Wow! This made me tear up a little bit. As a long time reader it’s so nice to see something important being discussed and doing so above the risk of losing followers. In a world where that is so important to so many people the real ness just brightens my heart. Thank you!

  78. Thank you for posting this here and on your insta! This march was so important to all women– I truly was skeptical of bloggers who didn’t say a word about it over the weekend. We’re living in a scary reality, and acknowledging real life (even if it’s outside your comfort zone) is so important to making others feel ok talking about their views, no matter what they are. This was not a political march– it was a movement simply for equality among all, which you would hope is a bipartisan cause. Knowing you were there makes me a much more loyal fan to your brand. Again, thank you, and those 600 followers are missing out 🙂

  79. I am usually a silent reader but I am very proud and moved that you chose to speak up about this. This march was not meant to be divisive, although the inauguration was. I hope your realize your power in citizen outreach and participation and use it for good. Thank you for talking about this!

  80. Thank you for speaking (posting) from the heart and coming from a place of acceptance, love, and openness. Not everyone would be ok with taking the hit of 600 followers (yikes!) but I respect and appreciate your following your gut and putting that above the numbers. This is one of many reasons I enjoy following along. xo

  81. I was hesitant to click on this post because I disagree with what so many people marched for this weekend and while this hasn’t changed my viewpoint, I still want to commend you for speaking up for something that is touchy but important to you – and for doing it so eloquently.

    One correction I do have though is that it’s not just that people like me *felt* excluded/uninvited, but actually WERE uninvited. A few groups who I align with very closely (namely pro-life groups) were actually told they could not attend the event due to their views. It was so disheartening to me that a march that is supposed to be about bolstering the women of our nation (all for that!) told certain women (like me) they were not included unless they changed their stance on a certain issue. The hypocrisy actually had me in tears. If only everyone had your attitude of being more open-minded and less quick to judge!

    So again, thank you for going against the popular thing to do as a blogger and speaking up SO KINDLY about what is important to you and for never once making me feel like I am less just because I might not agree about everything. Keep spreading that kindess and I will do the same! 🙂

    1. I’m sorry you felt unwelcome at the march, Mary Katherine, and I hate the idea that anyone told you that you were not welcome because you are anti-abortion. While pro-life organizations were removed as partners of the march, everything I read from official outlets (and everyone I spoke to in DC) welcomed people who are anti-abortion but who shared advocacy for other parts of the platform. I hope you will consider joining similar marches when they next occur.

    2. The pro-life groups you’re referring to weren’t banned from marching – they were merely removed as official partners as their views were in direct conflict with the policy platform of the march 😉

  82. Thank you for speaking up about this movement, Mackenzie. People are only threatened by what they cannot control, and it’s sad to hear that some of your followers felt threatened by such a peaceful, important movement in support of basic rights.

    While you may have lost followers, and obviously that is not ideal for a business, I respect you so much more for using your platform to share your voice and the unheard voices of women at the march (and those who couldn’t be a part of it due to circumstance). I’m so happy to hear that your sister is feeling the love!

  83. Thanks so much for sharing, and acknowledging that you took a professional risk in doing so. I attended the women’s march in Chicago and also found it to be completely inspiring and uplifting. However, I also found it heartbreaking to hear that so many women were excluded for expressing differing views from the majority – it runs counter to the entire theme of the event! Today’s political climate is incredibly toxic and divisive, and we need more honest, respectful voices like yours to show that you can express your views without stomping on others. As we move forward, it’s crucial to acknowledge that there are good people on both sides of any debate.

  84. You may have lost 600 instagram followers, but you gained one just now. Equality should be for everyone…it’s an easy message to believe in. 🙂

  85. I’ve never commented on your blog before, but I wanted to let you know how happy I am that you shared your experience. I too attended the women’s march in my own town (Portland) and was so proud to see so many men, women and children out in support of one another. It takes courage to put yourself out there, and I’m so glad that you did.

  86. This post perfectly summed up so many feelings! I am not one to comment on posts, but this was so beautifully written and I admire you even more for speaking out. Thank you for writing such a positive message, one of the few I have seen without some sort of passive agressive remark toward others. Thank you for spreading love!!

  87. I have been reading your blog for years and years and your post seemed nothing out of the ordinary to me. It was reflective of the person I’ve seen in your work on any other day– someone who is a fiercely loving family member, a strong and confident woman, and genuine in her commitment to kindness and inclusion. Thanks for being you! xx

  88. I totally agree! I was at the march too and it was so amazing to see so many women and men from all different backgrounds come together on Saturday. I have also been struggling since, especially on social media… growing up in the South many people simply just don’t get it and it’s been hard not to get frustrated when trying to explain to them the importance of the march. I am so glad I was able to go, and I look forward to continuing to speak up for women with different backgrounds than myself.

    Tori

  89. I can’t believe you lost instagram followers over a March that was truly meant to unite women and give them a voice. I know you wouldn’t say this because you’re so sweet but the type of people who would unfollow you because of this are not the type of people you want to follow you anyways…seriously! I think it is so important that people who have a voice use the privilidge to stand up for what they believe in. Not everyone has to be political and the women’s march doesn’t need to be a republican versus democrat thing…it’s about giving women a voice and empowering us all to stand together. I think it is so important that you stood up for your sister and women as a whole! Thanks for sharing your experience!

  90. Mackenzie,

    We apparently take in 80% of information through our eyes — Instagram is 100% visual. It’s important to remember that some people simply choose to look away from things that are outside their carefully curated comfort bubbles. Luckily, most people choose to take on new perspectives and understand where different folks are coming from. Good for you for going outside your bubble! I am one proud follower…who isn’t going anywhere.

    xo, Kyra

  91. Mackenzie, I’m so sorry to hear that you got such backlash from doing something that so clearly came from a place of love and personal support for your sister. Part of why I have always loved your blog is the openness and genuine positively I feel from it. Keeping doing what you know is right – you are a class act! xoxo Natalie

  92. Mackenzie thank you so much for sharing! I marched in Chicago and felt like it was such an important moment in history. Please don’t let losing followers stop you from posting – it’s made me enjoy reading your blog (and following your instagram) more.

  93. Amen! It is sad and telling that it requires bravery and courage to support your sister. To all those people who wanted to know why so many women marched on Saturday, this is why. I am sorry you lost so many followers. I am only one person, but I so admire your grace and your style. Your blog gained my admiration several years ago. On Saturday, you gained my respect. I am sure your sister is so proud. Well done.

  94. I was going to send you an email, Mackenzie, because I am so impressed with your willingness to share about the march. Thank you for attending and your honesty! It is so sad to see people who are unwilling to even hear an alternate perspective or welcome people of diverse experiences! I’m sorry you lost followers but I hope all these positive comments inspire you to continue sharing your experiences! I attended the march in Boston and at its core I think the march is not a protest but a show of support for those people who are scared or anxious about the future. Hopefully it contributes to a continued dialogue about diverse identities!

  95. I want to thank you for sharing this! My sister is also gay and she was one of the main reasons I decided to march on Saturday. She unfortunately wasn’t able to join me (she’s still in school) but I wish she could have been there to experience how kind, loving and accepting everyone was. This was the first march I’ve attended and it was such a wonderful experience for me and for all the people I know who participated. The negativity around the march and politics in general these days is so toxic and polarizing, so I doubly appreciate your strength/courage to share your experience and stand up for what you believe in.

  96. Mackenzie, brava to you for doing what you know is right in your heart for you and marching proudly for your sister, and everyone else in this world who you stood up for. I know it’s not easy, when having a public-facing persona like your blog and Instagram, to voice support for something that feels more divided than ever lately, but voices like yours really matter. That, is the definition of bravery and truth. What is right is not always easy! May have lost some followers, but you surely gained a lot of respect from many.

  97. I am a loyal reader and follower exactly because of posts like this. Thanks for putting your principles ahead of 600 followers. Your voice has always been positive and inclusive, and I appreciate your contributions!!

  98. I agree with the comments below. It was right to stand with your sister and to engage in peaceful protest. I am proud to be a reader/follower and wish you only good things. You may have lost followers but you are now more closely connected with those that remain. XO

  99. I think it’s amazing that you marched and stood up for your sister — and that you were public about it on your blog! I attended the march in NYC on Saturday and it was really inspiring and incredible. So glad you had a similar experience. x

  100. Thank you, thank you, thank you for being there and speaking out about it!! I was there too, and it’s something that I will remember my whole life and cling to in the dark days that are certain to come over the next few years. One thing that I have resolved to do since the election is be more open about sharing my personal experiences as a woman. I’m an intensely private person and it’s hard for me to speak out about my reproductive rights or the reality of sexual assault on college campuses, but I think it’s so valuable to women who have had similar experiences to know that they are not alone. (And to humanize the very real issues facing women!)

    You have inspired me and I am grateful to know that there are so many other women who are taking this on too!

  101. Even though you might have lost followers, I believe you gained a stronger connection to your followers that support you. Thank you for this post!

  102. I am so glad that you marched for your sister and for a cause you believe is important. I, too, felt disappointed that everyone didn’t march with that positive intention and that some felt and/or were told they couldn’t participate. Your message of inclusion and positivity should not be something you ever feel ashamed of. As for the 600 followers you lost, it’s too bad they were unable to understand your (and others’) points of view and choose to be respectful of them.

  103. Thank you for posting this. Thank you for being candid re: sharing that you lost followers. Keep your chin up!

    I 100% felt inspired by the content you shared from the March. Women must keep helping women — it’s the only way we can move forward!

    Please keep posting honest, personal content. You are the physical representation of your brand and I certainly hope the Design Darling brand continues to convey that it is chic to be kind and inclusive.

  104. I love this post and the sentiment. I’m sorry you lost followers, but was so happy to see you were at the march standing with your family in support of your sister and all women. I live in DC and was at the march, too. After watching violent protests from my apartment on Friday, I was pretty nervous to attend on Saturday. But like you, I stepped outside of my comfort zone to attend and am so happy I did – it was an extremely moving and inspiring day.

    Thank you for speaking up and reminding us all that this is about loving all and coming together, not loving some and dividing further. My favorite sign of all simply said “be kind”. Though many cracked me up and others were very moving, I think this is the most important takeaway that you are pointing out, too. More than ever, we need to stand together to be kind to ourselves and each other. xoxo

  105. I’m generally a content consumer, not a commenter. But I feel compelled to tell you that I think SO highly of your support for your sister, and I think it’s fantastic that you shared this part of your life with your readers. I can’t believe that we live in a time when participating in such a positive and loving event can be seen as controversial. I also like that you aren’t coming from an apologetic place when sharing this — there’s nothing to apologize for. Keep up the great work and know that you have a big group of readers supporting you too!

  106. Thank you for posting about your experience. In my personal bubble, everyone has been so involved with and supportive of actions like the Women’s March. I honestly forgot that it could be seen as divisive in any way until I looked at social media on the day and realized that while all my friends were posting, very few influencers I follow were adding their voices. Thank you for being public about your involvement- we need more women in positions of power to use their platforms to talk about women’s issues (and LGBTQ issues, and race issues, and…the list could go on and on). Keep fighting the good fight alongside your friends and family. While you may lose some followers, the ones who stick around just gained even more respect for you.

  107. I really love posts like this! I never leave comments but I just want to let you know how much I appreciate this. I know having a public platform is difficult, you don’t want to anger people but you want to be real. And I think you do an awesome job. THANK YOU

  108. Mackenzie-
    Thank you for sharing this thoughtful and really well written post. I was in the same boat as you- a bit nervous to attend but unwilling to miss out on such an incredible opportunity, and am SO glad that I went.

    I know talking about politics can be polarizing, so I applaud you for taking the high road here and not making this about politics and instead about human rights and a cause that is close to you and your family. Here’s to a continued open dialogue and a world where women lift each other up in a time where we need that more than ever.

    -Lindsay

  109. I couldn’t agree with you more Mackenzie! Life is not a zero-sum proposition. By supporting under-served or under-represented populations we enhance the state of humanity as a whole. I am prod to be your fan!

  110. Great post! I had similar feelings as I went into the local march here in LA. My takeaways are essentially the same as yours. I’m happy to hear that your sister felt bolstered by the march. We are here for her and all others.

  111. I attended the sister march in Wilmington, NC. I was nervous and out of my comfort zone, too – but had the same experience. Everyone was kind, inclusive, and positive. Thank you for this thoughtful and honest post. We need more gentle bravery like this in the world!

  112. This is so well written. I too attended, and had a similar experience. I have also had some negative responses to my very inclusive pictures, and that was really hard for me as well. Sharing your opinion is harder than staying silent. I hope that people will come around and realize that the march was to unite us, not divide us. Bravo!

  113. LOVE. THIS. Watching so many brands and influencers lose followers over supporting the march has been truly shocking but it makes me love those people, accounts and companies even more for openly posting about the event. You go girl!

  114. This post is what the internet needs. You go above and beyond being an online influencer and boutique – we need more people like you to speak out! It is about inclusion and it is so disappointing so many people, especially women, do not understand that!

  115. Mackenzie, thank you so much for this! You should be very proud of yourself for marching alongside so many amazing men and women. I really appreciate you taking a chance and speaking up. It’s your blog after all, you get to decide how to use it!! It is going to be a tough road ahead, but if we all come together and reach out towards others like you have done with this post, I know everything will be okay. You’ve always been my favorite blogger, but with this I gained a whole new respect for you.

  116. You go girl!
    I know it’s hard to be in a business that somewhat relies on a following, but I’m so proud of you for sharing what is important to you.

    I support you!

  117. Thank you Mackenzie. It is so easy to stay quiet to keep the “peace” which is only peaceful for those who will be unaffected by this new administration. I also look forward of getting out of my comfort zone.