Happy Friday, everyone! We’re planning on a pretty low-key couple of days at home and dressing up for a Halloween party with friends tomorrow night. I hope you have a fun-filled weekend as well! Here are this week’s rose and thorn…


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This week’s rose was by far a strong sense of connection, both with family and friends and with all of you who read this blog. I’ve mentioned that loneliness is my least favorite part of working from home and this week that was the furthest thing from my mind.

I started the week with my most commented blog post of all time about changing my last name after marriage. I was blown away by how many of you commented, but more than that I felt deep gratitude that everyone was so respectful of opinions different from their own. It can be really hard for me to talk about personal choices (like participating in the Women’s March on Washington, for instance) on the blog when the backlash can be so hurtful, so it was really refreshing to discuss a somewhat controversial topic and listen to so many viewpoints expressed with such kindness and tolerance. I learned a lot from your comments and I’m excited to write more of these types of posts going forward. This conversation made me really proud of the community I’m fostering here — you are a group of independent, insightful, intellectual, badass women and I can’t wait to tap into that energy more often.

I also had a workout date with my mom, a fun lunch with my friend Molly, a dinner date in the city with Amy, phone calls to catch up with my sister Reilly and my cousin Emily, and got together to work on Halloween costumes with our friends Katie, Shelly, and their husbands. It was definitely a busier week than usual and my heart is so full because of it!

So it will probably come as no surprise that this week’s thorn was falling way off my miracle morning schedule. I did not manage to get myself out of bed at 5:30 a.m. a single day this week and I’m feeling majorly guilty about it. Maybe I need to pick a time that’s not quite so aggressive, like 6:30 a.m., to ease into things a little more? I’d love to hear what works for you. And tell me your rose and thorn for the week in the comments! xx



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  1. Love the concept of “rose and thorn”! We used to do highs and lows during a leadership retreat I’ve been in since I was 13 and it’s one of my favorites. My rose this week was finding out during house hunting that I’m in a better position than I thought to be able to buy and it was such an amazing feeling!! But the thorn, the house my boyfriend and I really wanted was already under contract when he took me to see it and the listing agent hadn’t updated the listing 🙁 🙁 we found another house today that I fell in love with though, so I guess I get two roses for the prick of one thorn! I’ll take that as a win 🙂

  2. I love your morning blog post! I’m a teacher, and I started waking up at 5:30 every morning. I do well with it and while it took some adjustment, waking up early is so underrated! With time in the morning, I go for a walk/ jog, do my bible study, and have time to make a real breakfast (just a little more effort than a granola bar)! It’s been my favorite new-school-year resolution 🙂

  3. I LOVE how productive and kick-ass I feel when getting up early, but I hate the getting-out-of-bed part. One thing that totally changed my life was getting a wake-up light! It simulates the sunrise so it feels more gradual and gentle instead of a blaring alarm in the dark. Most days I can pop right out of bed before the alarm even goes off (which is crazy because I was one of those people who would hit snooze 5 or 6 times – on a good day – before actually getting up). It is seriously my saving grace in the dark PNW winters!

  4. I tried so hard, for so long, to be a person who gets up to go to barre at 5:50 and the truth is I do not love going to barre at 5:50. I am a total morning person, but times that start with 5 are too early for me, and I like going to class later in the day, when I’m warmed up and more flexible. All that to say – don’t fight it! Work on a schedule that works for you.

  5. I’m fortunate that I don’t need to be in my office too early, which affords me a 7:30 wake up time. What helps me is that for the most part my husband has the same schedule which keeps me accountable to my morning routine (letting the dog out, feeding the dog, packing lunches for my husband and I, showering, and getting ready for the day).

    My rose this week is that my husband and I are celebrating our first anniversary as a married couple on Sunday!
    My thorn this week is that the mortgage is due (bye bye money).

  6. Hi Mackenzie,

    I’m loving your rose and thorn posts by the way. It’s fun to read how the week rose and fell for you.
    To your question about becoming a morning person I have a small recommendation that I’ve found helpful as a newlywed. If you can get up at the same time as your new husband it’s 10x easier to stay motivated. This might not work for you and your husband’s schedule but it might make the transition to an earlier time, maybe 6:30 instead of 5:30, a bit easier.

    I hope you’re loving married life and I’m so happy you had a beautiful week.

    – Kelli

    1. This is SUCH a good tip! Will has to get up so early for work but it’d be great for us to get on the same schedule every day. Thank you for the kind words and have an amazing weekend!!!

  7. Hi Mackenzie! Love reading your blog and one tip/piece of advice as far as the early wake up times that works for me is picking one day during the week as a “sleep in” day. I have to be up very early for work (usually 5am) but on Thursdays I work from home so I don’t get up until sometime between 7:45 and 8:15am, leisurely make coffee and breakfast, and curl up with a mug on the couch walking the Today Show as I respond to emails etc. I look forward to Thurs mornings so much and it makes the alarm going off early on the other days a lot easier because I have Thurs to recharge. Getting in the schedule of waking up that early can be grueling, but now that I am used to it, I crash early on Tues and Wed nights because I am so tired so I go to bed earlier and have Thurs to look forward to. By the time Friday rolls around, I know it’s the last day before the weekend and it makes it easier to get through. Hope that helps!

  8. Don’t despair about the morning routine! Something that’s helpful for me to remember when trying to change a habit is that just because I can’t, say, get up at 5:30 every morning right now doesn’t mean I’ll never be able to. If that’s your ultimate goal, I say stick to it and give yourself some flexibility in getting there. If you get up at that time one day next week, that’s progress. One day a week two weeks in a row, progress! Maybe the next week it will be two days. I’ve also learned to celebrate getting back ON the wagon and recognizing an opportunity to recommit to a good habit instead of beating myself up for falling off.

  9. 5:30 is an aggressive goal. I have to wake up for work then, but I have found that when I have flexibility waking up after 6 is so much easier than before. Maybe it’s a mental thing, but seeing the 6 on the clock makes a difference for me. It’s also the difference of going to bed st 9:30 or 10 and for me 10is more realistic. I.D try shooting for 6 or 6:30, good luck!