dear grandy

Dear Grandy, 

How do you say goodbye to one of the great loves of your life? To the woman who introduced me to so many more of my big loves — Nantucket, needlepoint, Christmas mornings surrounded by cousins and siblings and the best kind of chaos?

There is so much I have you to thank for. Thank you for making it cool to have a signature style. Thank you for imparting your love of outdoor showers and the necessity of slipping out of the chapel after communion in time to secure blueberry muffins from ‘Sconset Market. Thank you for teaching me to needlepoint — what a profound gift to inherit a hobby that will always make me feel connected to you, no matter how far I fall short of your expertise. Thank you for your generous spirit, your open heart, your willingness to say yes to dog sledding at 78 or learning to use a computer in your mid-eighties. My heart aches at the thought of birthdays and anniversaries without your early bird email wishes.

Grandy, as far as grandparents go, you were one in a billion. And I’ll forever and always be lucky you were mine.


P.S. Will always treasure this interview with Grandy at 91.

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  1. Mackenzie, I had the profound pleasure to know & spend lots of time with your Grandy during her days on Den Road. I fell for her the first five minutes of our first meeting! What an extraordinary women! I loved, I mean really loved our conversations about so many things, places & people but mostly our shared love of convertibles and how there was little better than flying down the road with the wind in your hair. Mostly, I loved our talks about life, about how amazing lucky she felt to have had such a magical life – a life that was magical because it was hers and she was the magic. I loved how excited she got when she knew any one or all of you were stopping by for a visit, especially Teddy. She had enormous love for her family.

    1. Linda, thank you so much for these extraordinarily kind words! She adored everyone there and we felt so lucky to have her so close. Thank you for taking such excellent care of her these past several months. We will always remember our time there fondly!

  2. Oh hon…I am so very sorry for your devastating loss of dear Grandy. You’ve shared so much of her throughout the years — I feel like we all knew and loved her too. What an icon and an amazing human being. I had a very close relationship with my Grandmother and I miss her so. Her words to live by were, “Follow your bliss!” May your wonderful memories of Grandy comfort you and bring you peace. Hugs to you and your family.

  3. I’m so sorry. Sometimes when older people die, the family hears a lot of “it was her time so it’s less sad” or “at least she lived to a good old age.” I see it differently – older people are there the longest for us. They’re ever-present in the family. They have the most years of friendship, motherhood, and grandmotherhood under their belts. They offer the unique opportunity to share family memories from the distant past while also being part of your present. Of course losing that is devastating. Your grandmother sounded like a very special woman and I’m so sorry to hear about your loss.

  4. Oh no – I am so sorry! I looked at Grandy’s outfits over your wedding weekend and thought, when I get to be her age, I’m going to dress like that – classy! I know you and your entire family feel her loss…

  5. My heart is sad for you. I know how close you were to your Grandmother from reading your blog. A very sad loss for your whole family. I’m so sorry Mackenzie.

  6. I am so very sorry. What a blessing to have had her in your life for so long, yet not long enough. I have been reading your blog for years and always loved the Grandy stories (the interview with her is a treasure). She seemed like a truly special lady.

  7. I am so, so, sorry for your (& your family’s) loss. I’ve long admired your relationship with Grandy- your love for her was apparent in every post you wrote about her. May her memory be a blessing to you all.

  8. I am so sorry to hear you’ve lost Grandy. Your stories of her always showed clear love and admiration. She will be missed.

  9. Mackenzie, I am so very sorry for the loss of someone so profoundly impactful on your life and your family. I have been thinking of you so much and sending so many prayers that happy memories comfort your whole family. Just last month my 11 year old son unexpectedly passed away and the grief feels unbearable sometimes..please good care of yourself and know there are so many people wrapping you in love..

  10. I’m so sorry for your loss. New-ish reader here, and my Gram was also from Ridgewood, worked in the City in the 50’s, and gave all us cousins the gift of summer beach memories. My heart is hurting for you and your family.

  11. So sorry for your loss Mackenzie. I’ve been reading your blog for a decade and your relationship with your Grandy is so special. Wishing you peace, light and happy memories as you celebrate her life.

  12. Lost my grandmother a couple years ago, and it is and will always be a gaping void in my life. To have someone who thinks you are perfect, even though you know she knows all of your flaws, is such a gift. If I can be half the woman my Grams was, I’ll be a light for many. Condolences to you.

  13. Such a lovely presence on your blog for years. Truly sad for all of you. Families are forever. I hope you know you did right by her.

  14. Oh no! I am heartbroken for you and your family and so incredibly sorry for your tremendous loss. What a treat it was for us readers to get to know Grandy through your blog over the years. She was one of kind.

  15. My heart hurts for you and your family. She sounds like quite a special woman and loving mom, grandma, and great-grandma. Sending love your way.

  16. I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my grandmother a few months ago and it is so, so hard. Thinking of you and you and your family.

  17. Oh Mackenzie, what a beautiful tribute to your beloved Grandy. She seems like she truly was one in a billion. Will be thinking of you and your family during this time. <3