MY FIRST TRIMESTER RECAP

Ever since I first found out I was pregnant, I’ve been rereading the archives of some of my favorite blogs (Amy’s, Jen’s, and Julia’s to name a few!), pouring over pregnancy updates, registry recommendations, and birth stories. Especially during those first few weeks when we hadn’t told anyone besides my parents, it was so comforting to read posts from other moms-to-be and know that I wasn’t alone in experiencing a certain feeling or symptom. I’ve already loved hearing from so many of you who are also pregnant and I hope my pregnancy updates will create a space for all of us to connect and learn from one another during this wild ride!

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WEEKS 4-6

I shared how I found out I was pregnant in this post and the first thing I did was call my doctor to schedule an appointment to confirm the pregnancy. I had read online that most doctors won’t see you until you’re 8-10 weeks pregnant and I was so relieved when my doctor scheduled an appointment right at 6 weeks. In weeks 4-6, I noticed my sense of smell became instantly more sensitive and found myself needing to nap a couple times a week, but looking back it was really the calm before the storm of symptoms that were about to hit. I was also super short of breath doing normal things like walking Rory and climbing the stairs — thankfully that’s subsided but it totally caught me off guard when it first happened so early on!

Will and I went in together for the 6 week appointment and I couldn’t help but tear up when my doctor confirmed the pregnancy. We even got to see our teeny tiny little baby and take home our first pictures! We were so fortunate to get pregnant only a couple months after we started trying and my heart breaks for any and every woman struggling to get pregnant — I never want to appear insensitive or take this incredible blessing for granted.

WEEKS 9-10

By week 8, constant nausea and fatigue had set in and I found myself napping nearly every day and relying on bagels and crackers to keep me from throwing up everything I ate. This is around when some of you started noticing that I’d gotten quieter on my blog and Instagram — I had zero energy for taking pictures and I felt like I had nothing to write about while I was spending most of my time traversing between our bed and the toilet (sorry for that visual!). I have never ever been so grateful to work from home — I am truly in awe of women who’ve experienced similarly debilitating nausea while having to hold down office jobs or tackle daily commutes. 

The day we flew home from Palm Beach at 9 weeks, I threw up seven times and couldn’t seem to keep down a single sip of water. I started frantically googling and realized this was probably more than typical morning sickness (which I had never experienced exclusively in the morning to begin with). When I threw up five more times the next day, I called my doctor and she said I should go straight to the emergency room as I was likely experiencing hyperemesis gravidarum (which results in extreme nausea and excessive vomiting) and would need to be treated for dehydration. The problem was my husband was on a work trip in San Francisco, my mom and sister were on a yoga retreat in the Berkshires, and my dad was at home taking care of all eight ABC girls by himself. I knew I couldn’t drive myself to the ER without getting sick and finally called my dad in tears asking if he could drive me to the hospital during the girls’ study hall. I spent that night alone in the ER with an IV to temporarily stop the vomiting so I could get three bags of fluids to rehydrate. 

That day and night were easily the low point of my pregnancy so far and I was absolutely terrified that something had happened to the baby while I was so sick. My doctor was kind enough to move up our 10 week appointment so we could check on the baby and my mom and sister raced home from their trip in time to take me to her office two days later. I looked like absolute hell that day and was horrified to learn that I’d lost eight pounds since my last appointment, but we were all so relieved when we saw the baby squirming around, healthy and happily unaware of what had been unfolding around him or her. Unfortunately I was still super dehydrated and had to go back to the ER that afternoon for a second round of fluids, but I felt like I could do anything knowing the baby was still okay and I had my mom and sister to keep me company. 

WEEKS 10-14

My doctor prescribed a drug called Diclegis used to treat hyperemesis that I’ve been taking since week 9.5 and that’s made it possible for me to stop throwing up and regain the weight I’d lost in weeks 8-9. It makes me pretty drowsy and I’d ideally love to be taking as little medication as possible while pregnant, but unfortunately every time we’ve tried to wean me off of it, the nausea and vomiting have immediately come back in full force. While morning sickness tends to ease up around the end of the first trimester, hyperemesis can hang around through the entire pregnancy, so it’s something we’ll continue to keep an eye on as this pregnancy progresses. I got so many nausea tips from famliy and friends (ginger tea! sour candy! vitamin B!) but I’ve thrown up every single time I’ve skipped a dose of Diclegis, so we’re sticking with what works for now. If any of you are experiencing what you believe is excessive nausea or vomiting, please go talk to your doctor and get yourself and your baby rehydrated! I knew nothing about hyperemesis before I experienced it myself (my mom had zero nausea with all four of her pregnancies!) and I have such empathy for anyone else who’s been there or still going through it.

Since I started taking Diclegis at 9.5 weeks, my pregnancy symptoms have been much more “normal.” I’ve been tired, yes, but after experiencing hyperemesis it feels like every other symptom is a walk in the park. We made the game time decision (with our doctor’s sign-off of course!) to proceed with our trip to Australia at 11-12 weeks and I felt pretty great with a few few-and-far-between exceptions (I’ll admit the flight home from Hong Kong just about did me in). We packed in fewer activities than we normally would have and I was usually ready for bed by 8 p.m. at the latest, but it felt incredible to be out and about exploring with my nausea under control after weeks of being cooped up and feeling so sick. 

Will and I got to hear our baby’s heartbeat for the first time at our 12 week appointment and also got to see a much clearer picture on the ultrasound. Our baby was starting to look like a baby instead of a tiny blur! It was after this appointment that we started telling the rest of our family and friends (only both sets of parents found out before then!) and it was such a tremendous relief to be able to share the news with our favorite people. 

We knew from the beginning that we wanted to find out the baby’s sex and I don’t know if I’ve ever been as impatient as I was waiting for the genetic testing results to come back in week 14. I knew we’d be over the moon either way, but I felt like knowing whether it was a boy or girl would make everything feel much more real (I hated calling the baby an “it” for all those weeks!). I’ll be sharing the gender on the blog a week from today — feel free to share your guess in the comments!

QUESTIONS

Apologies for the essay (bravo if you’re still reading!) — I feel like I’ve covered a lot of ground but here are a few other questions I’ve gotten since I shared the news last week.

Have you had any cravings or aversions?

I haven’t had a ton of cravings (besides a very recent and very specific one for Reese’s ice cream from Baskin Robbins — I don’t think I’d had it in 10+ years?!) and my strongest aversion has been to iced coffee (which I used to drink every day and abruptly lost all interest in around week 6!). I’m also super sensitive to smells — I haven’t eaten meat in 12 years but it’s never bothered me to be around people cooking or eating it until Will was heating up meatballs one night and I literally had to run out of the room. 😂

When did your bump start showing? 

I started noticing a real difference in week 14, but at week 17 it’s still much smaller in the mornings than it is by the afternoon! Any time I have a bottle of water or a meal (which I did before taking last week’s pictures!), it looks like a real bump, but otherwise I just look super bloated. My mom said she really “popped” around week 20 so we shall see!

Are you still working out?

Before getting pregnant, I usually worked out 2-3 times a week, either taking group classes with my mom or doing BBG workouts with Will. After an admittedly lazy holiday season, I started working out with Anel at Countdown Fitness once a week and have kept that up without adding anything incremental. I did have to reschedule a few sessions before I got my nausea under control, but thankfully Anel’s wife Julia worked out all through her pregnancy and I feel extremely comfortable knowing that he’s an expert on ways to keep up strength during pregnancy as well as certain exercises to avoid. In a perfect world, I’d love to continue working out with him once a week and layer in a Pilates or yoga class or two, but until I (hopefully) experience that second trimester surge of energy I’ve heard people rave about, I’m sticking to once a week!

How much weight have you gained?

For what it’s worth I probably wouldn’t make a habit of asking pregnant women this question, but I remember doing lots of research when my hyperemesis was at its worst, so I’m happy to share that I’ve regained the eight pounds I had lost and put on an additional pound. Now that I’ve found a nausea remedy that works for me and am able to eat normally again, I expect I’ll have a very different number to report at the end of my second trimester.

Has your sleep been affected since getting pregnant?

YES. Not only do I crave so much more of it but this is the first time in my life I’ve woken up 1-2 times in the middle of the night needing to go to the bathroom or reset after a crazy dream (which all feel SO real no matter how whacky they are — hormones are crazy!). I ordered this maternity pillow a couple weeks ago to help me sleep on my side and I swear it’s the best $35 I’ve ever spent — I’m honestly not sure I’ll be ready to give it up once the baby is here!

Have you been more emotional since getting pregnant?

This would be an excellent question for Will. 😬😉 But yes, 1000%. I’m a pretty sensitive person in general but I don’t think I’ve ever cried so much in my life as I have these past four months! Happy tears, sad tears, tears that come out of nowhere and are over almost as soon as they’ve started. I imagine (I hope?!) I will feel a little more level-headed with future pregnancies when everything isn’t quite so foreign and new, but every day is truly a roller coaster of feeling ecstatic, overwhelmed, grateful, exhausted, giddy, anxious, and overwhelmed again. 

What are your plans for the nursery?

I am dying to start decorating and nesting (I feel like that’s my default setting when I’m not pregnant!) but we are crossing our fingers and toes to be able to buy a house and move before the baby arrives, so I’ve forced myself to hold off on nursery plans until we know where we’ll be living. We technically have our current rental house until four months after my due date, so if we can’t find a house we love before then, the nursery will probably be very bare bones until we settle somewhere where I can wallpaper, measure for furniture, etc.

What have you bought for the baby so far?

I can’t believe it but I haven’t bought a single thing! My mother-in-law surprised us with our first onesies and a little sweater when we were visiting for Easter over the weekend and it got me so excited for all the miniature purchases we have ahead of us. Right now we’re hyper focused on saving our pennies for a house, but I’ll be sure to share when my self-imposed shopping hiatus is up! 

What maternity clothes have you bought so far?

So far I’ve bought a pair of white maternity jeans and a pair of maternity leggings because they were part of the Shopbop sale last week, but I’ve mostly been living in yoga pants and low rise jeans (high rise denim has been out of the equation for a few weeks now). I’m excited that a fall baby means I’ll spend a lot of my third trimester in bikinis and maxi dresses on Nantucket, but I’ll be sure to share any maternity musts that I discover along the way! (Would love to hear your favorite brands if you have any!)

I also answered a few questions about a babymoon, baby names, and some of the things we’re most excited for in this post so be sure to check that out if you’re somehow still curious after this epically long post. 😝 If you have any other questions, I’d be happy to answer them in the comments or in my next Friday Q&A! Thank you all from the bottom of my heart for reading and sharing in our excitement! 

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  1. Hi Mackenzie! I have your blog in my reader, and just read Teddy’s birth story (CONGRATULATIONS!!!! to you on such a beautiful and healthy baby!) & your third trimester update – but followed a link to this first trimester post. I just found out I was pregnant last week, and will be entering my 6th week starting tomorrow. I’m not even sure you get comment notifications on such old posts, but I wanted to let you know that this post actually made me feel better that your 4-6 weeks were the “calm before the storm.” This is laughable, but I’ve been dying to have some sort of nausea hit just to know it’s all going ok. I won’t see my doctor for another 2.5 weeks, so my lack of symptoms (beyond “period boobs”) is worrisome, even thought it’s normal. All of the comments on random pregnancy apps seem to come from truly insane people, so that’s no help. I just wanted to let you know that even this little thing helps to know, coming from someone I trust. I hope to come back to your pregnancy posts in the future for continual help and assurance. Congrats again, and thank you!

  2. So sorry to hear you’ve been dealing with so much!! I’m about to be 30 weeks and what I can say is my love of iced coffee DID come back in my 2nd tri (maybe week 18?) and like your mom I “popped” around week 20! Shopping for maternity clothes is extremely frustrating because it’s almost all online. My favorite basics/staples are from Target while I got some beautiful shower options from Pink Blush. I am basically living in my lululemon align leggings which are a cult favorite in all my pregnancy FB groups. I can’t believe they made you wait until 14 weeks to do genetic testing, they did ours after 9 weeks! So excited to hear what you are having. I’m due with a girl on July 6th. Best of luck I can’t wait to hear more! ‘Ray Bucknell

  3. On the flip side I have always found comfort in women who shared how much weight they have gained if someone is willing to share. A lot of times you see people who don’t look like they gained much or people willingly sharing that they gained maybe 20lbs. I retained a lot of water and gaine 60lbs and one of my favorite bloggers talked about gaining 60lbs and Chrissy Teigen talked about it as well. Can’t say how much better I felt reading other women out there gained a lot as well because in the social media world it can make you feel like you’re the only one going through something. Especially when you are pregnant. I obviously think it should be up to the person if they want to share but that has been my experience.

  4. I’m so sorry to hear that things have been rough your first trimester! I’m really glad you have a medication that works for you and that your baby is otherwise doing well. Hopefully the next two trimesters will be a bit smoother.
    As always, thanks so much for sharing! I’m still a few years out from trying for my first but I really appreciate getting to read about how you’re dealing with everything.

  5. I’m a huge fan of Old Navy’s maternity line for activewear. Because I knew everything I was buying had an “end date” I appreciated how inexpensive it is. Loving these shorts (https://shopstyle.it/l/2t3i), this tank (https://shopstyle.it/l/2t0c), and these leggings (https://shopstyle.it/l/2t3m). For regular maternity clothes I also liked Old Navy for denim (https://shopstyle.it/l/2t3n), and A Pea in the Pod for tops (three favorites: https://shopstyle.it/l/2t0e and https://shopstyle.it/l/2t3t and https://shopstyle.it/l/2t3v).
    Can’t wait to see how you style the bump! It definitely gets a little tricky towards the end 🙃🤰🏻

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  6. Congrats, Mackenzie! If I could go back I probably would’ve gotten a few more gapfit maternity v-necks, they’re nice and light. I liked their yoga pants, too. Also, Family Tree Yoga has prenatal classes twice a week and Elm Street Diner has awesome milkshakes/desserts when you get your appetite back! Best of luck

  7. Ingrid & Isabel for leggings and Isabella Oliver (British brand but they have a US site) for nicer maternity clothes. Best wishes for rest of your pregnancy!! (Oh and mini-saltine crackers are the BEST!)

  8. Big congratulations! Such exciting times ahead! I know exactly what your going threw with the nausea, I had it for six months, and yes morning sickness is such a wrong name for it, 24/7 nausea more like it. My lowest point was throwing up in the middle of the street on my way to work. Never without a plastic bag in my purse and I can’t say that it goes away but eating bananas and almonds kind of helped me. The best maternity leggings I tried came from HM, otherwise skip the maternity clothes and go for stretchy normal clothes just a size or two up from your normal size. Good luck with everything!

  9. So excited for your sweet little family! I’m sorry you had such a rough start – hoping for a much smoother second and third trimester for you! I’ve lived in Old Navy’s maternity leggings – I find they have the best coverage, some brands are so thin. Another great basic are the Ingrid and Isabel v neck tees at Target. Super inexpensive so you can stock up on a bunch. They have great tanks too which I’m sure will be perfect for summer. I’ve found I am able to wear a lot of non-maternity stuff if I size up.

    As far as gender, I’m guessing boy! I developed an extreme aversion to coffee right around 7/8 weeks and I’m
    due with a little boy in June! (Happy to report my taste for it came back around 20 weeks, thank goodness!) can’t wait for your gender reveal next week! 💙💕

  10. Cracked up at the high-rise denim being out of the question. Oh me too and I was so sad because those are easily my most comfortable jeans. So thankful that down here in Houston it is now ok to wear shift dresses pretty much all the time–I ordered up a size in all the new Tuckernuck collection dresses that had a more forgiving waistline. I’ve felt terrible answering when people have asked me how I’ve been feeling (I’m maybe a week and a half behind you) and the honest answer is just really tired. I’ve oh so gratefully not gotten sick, but so many of my friends got so sick. I hope you get to feeling better soon!

  11. Oh my goodness. I’m sorry you have felt so sick. I do hope it goes away. I am VERY impressed you were still able to make it to Australia. Congrats on your pregnancy. I’m so excited for you and Will and for your whole family. Ten years ago I started a baby blog and I’m not really sure why I stopped writing it but maybe you could find some info on there? Please remember this blog was in 2007 before Instagram and basically at the beginning of blogging, when everyone had a blogspot account. I’ve been thinking of reviving it and your post made me go and search for it. I’ve linked it for you. It’s very crunchy as in…wow I was a real hippie when I was your age. I did have both my babies at home.

  12. Stick with the diclegis! It’s the only thing that got me through both pregnancies. I stayed nauseous even with the meds but at least it keeps you from getting sick and keeps baby getting all your nutrients. I tried to get off when I was like 7months and threw up for 24 hours straight 😩 you do what helps you and do let anyone give you flack for taking meds! (My dad pestered me my whole first pregnancy convinced meds weren’t good for the baby haha)

  13. Congratulations on your pregnancy!! I’m so sorry to hear about HG. I had to go on medication for both of my pregnancies (Dicelgis for the second one), and I felt the same way—obviously you want to avoid as many medications as possible—but you have to survive! For the first, I kept expecting the sickness to go away at some point, and it never did. At least for the second, I was prepared to be on medication throughout. I don’t say this to scare you, but just so you know you’re not alone if you continue to feel unwell. I felt like no one believed that I was still sick after the first trimester!
    Good luck on your home search! My parents have a home on Bell Island, and I love driving around Rowayton and Darien when we’re up there. So beautiful!

  14. Congratulations on your pregnancy and I’m sorry to hear you’ve dealt with so much nausea, but I’m glad you wrote the post to help inform other women about what to look for. Hopefully the medication will continue to help over the next few months.

    Are you hoping to buy a house in the Greenwich area? Best of luck finding a place you love!

  15. So glad you are feeling better! and UGH the weight gain question! I do think it’s helpful to hear others’ experience (if you are willing to share of course) because pregnancy can be such a time of insecurity (I am a few weeks ahead of you due in August 🙂 and if you are falling outside of that “textbook” 1-2 lbs a week it can feel so unsettling! Solidarity with other women sharing their experiences has been my saving grace. Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy….and my guess is boy!

  16. Thank you for your comment about women who are having trouble conceiving, as I am one of those women! I am SOO incredibly happy for you and Will and can’t wait to follow your journey….a baby is a blessing no matter what, but I definitely appreciate your sensitivity to women in all phases of their journey to becoming a mom! Congratulations to you guys again!!

  17. I’m sorry to hear the first trimester has been so rough! A number of my girlfriends have had HG and it is no joke. I hope it lets up soon for you!

    Re: still working out – I did yoga usually twice a week (give or take) up to 36 weeks and it was SO worth it. It really helped me avoid a lot of back pain and I could tell when I missed a session. You can always add a chair in to bring the floor closer to you when blocks stop being tall enough – my instructor did this for my modifications and I really appreciated it!

  18. I cannot imagine dealing with hyperemesis. Glad you’ve found a way to manage it and hopefully your pregnancy is smooth sailing from here on out!

    I was pregnant last summer and a few things I consistently wore were Lululemon Align leggings (I wore my normal size and they stretched perfectly), Gap maternity shorts and t-shirts, and a few HATCH tops. Also, the Boppy Wedge is VERY useful when your bump is getting large, and it was particularly nice to have while traveling if you can’t bring the big pregnancy pillow along.

    Best wishes! xx

  19. I had a very similar first trimester and diclegis was a God send!! Kate Middleton also had hyperemesis so we’re in good company 🙂